Value Based Parenting Series
Ground Them for Life
(This series can be scheduled as a small group, either held our home office in Eaton Rapids or as a in-home meeting)
“You are GROUNDED FOR LIFE!!” The infamous phrase a parent utters in frustration is actually a great idea! A value based parenting method isn’t about grounding your child to their room to get their behavior under control. It is about grounding them in principles, coping skills, and morals that will serve them now and throughout adulthood. Unlike many traditional parenting models, which often focus simply on changed behavior rather than changing and growing the heart and values of the child, the Grounded for Life series will provide tools to building a healthy, consistent relationship between you and your child, allowing you to empower your child to develop their own value system to make healthy choices, even when you are not looking!
Ground Them for Life Parenting Class Series
Week by Week descriptions
– The Greatest Human Need
The greatest human need is to be valued. Our need to feel valued makes us vulnerable to what others may think of us, influencing us to behave in ways that are dictated by outside sources rather than our own internal belief system. This primary need also affects how we interact with our children. Parents can guide their children more effectively when they understand what motivates their child’s behavior and how they respond to peer pressure as they search for their own inner value.
When parents demonstrate their own inner value, they automatically influence their children to find their own inner value. As children experience this perception shift and derive value from within rather than from peers, they learn to create healthier boundaries and make decisions according to their internal values. Learn how to empower your children with skills that will serve them indefinitely.
– Ripple Effect
When a pebble is dropped into a pond, the ripples are seemingly endless. Your self-perception affects your interactions with everyone, especially your children. Discover the power of your own emotional ripples and how to model healthy emotional management. Through this experience of self-discovery, learn essential emotional management skills and how to foster a more positive self-awareness.
– Fear vs. Love
Every emotion we experience is rooted in one of two primary emotions: fear and love. Using fear as a motivator generates short-term results. Motivating through love, however, creates powerful results that will serve your children now and into adulthood. Learn how to differentiate between fear and love and how to effectively influence your children through loving, positive methods.
– Control vs.Influence
Learn to recognize the difference between control and influence. The power of influence is far greater than the power of control. By establishing a trust and rapport with your child based on mutual respect, your children will be much more receptive and want to listen to you. Creating a foundation of trust empowers you with the ability to influence your children to make sound decisions.
– Three Dependencies
As parents, we often demonstrate dependency on certain relationships in our lives. The relationships may be with our spouse, friends, co-workers or our children. When these dependencies are unhealthy, they affect the way our children learn to respond to their environment. Free yourself of unhealthy dependencies and learn how to create balanced, interdependent relationships. Modeling healthy relationship patterns directly impacts your child’s relationships with others.
– Three Steps to Communication
Communication is paramount to creating a healthy, loving relationship with your child. This fundamental skill will undoubtedly help you build a healthier foundation for learning to take place. Learn how to communicate without an agenda – to truly listen and express your position simply by asking questions. This is one of the most powerful tools you will take home through Value Based Parenting.
– Consequence vs. Punishment
Learn how to differentiate between consequences and punishment. One of the most empowering teaching tools parents have is the ability to teach through consequences rather than punishment. There is a consequence for every action, whether it is positive or negative. Consequences that are directly linked to behavior create a logical connection for your child to reference in the future. Learn how to use consequences in the most effective way possible.
– Using the 10 Core Value System
Developing the family’s ten core values allows you to reinforce solid principles and morals your children can carry on into adulthood. When we use behavioral modification programming, we teach children how to jump thought the hoops of life never really understanding why they are doing what they are doing. When we use positive peer culture programming we teach our children to be susceptible to what others think and to merely go with the flow. Helping our children develop their ability to govern themselves, is the greatest gift a parent could ever give.