Is your PMS acting up?

PMS, when we read those words a certain subject comes to mind, but I am not talking about the time of month women lose their minds due to hormones.  I am talking about Mom’s losing their Minds due to a disease I refer to as Perfect Mother Syndrome, which is what I am focusing on for the next couple of weeks.   As I said yesterday, even Wonder Woman needs a break.  We all need to take a little time for ourselves.  This all sounds dandy and makes sense, I am sure.  The question is, why don’t we?  Well, my theory is PMS.  And this PMS isn’t just a once a month deal.  It is all the time!!!  Am I a good mom?  Am I raising strong kids, confident kids, kids who make responsible choices?  Oh, wait, did I feed the kids.  I mean seriously, they did eat,  right.  I know Bo had his shirt on inside out and backwards, Timmy needs a haircut, and Josh and Kate probably needed something signed for

As I said yesterday, even Wonder Woman needs a break.  We all need to take a little time for ourselves.  This all sounds dandy and makes sense, I am sure.  The question is, why don’t we?  Well, my theory is PMS.  And this PMS isn’t just a once a month deal.  It is all the time!!!  Am I a good mom?  Am I raising strong kids, confident kids, kids who make responsible choices?  Oh, wait, did I feed the kids.  I mean seriously, they did eat,  right.  I know Bo had his shirt on inside out and backwards, Timmy needs a haircut, and Josh and Kate probably needed something signed for school that I forgot, but DID I FEED THEM.  I mean yeah, I did leave a kid at school last week and I haven’t cooked a real dinner in weeks, but did they at least grab a granola bar before they went to school, come to think of it, do we have granola bars? We run to the pantry…no granola bars!  And then it happens, the PMS kicks in.

No granola bars, yelled at the kids yesterday, Bo ran out of clean underwear, you were late to Kate’s game and missed her throwing a player out at second, now she will probably need therapy as an adult you haven’t had Josh driving enough, he will probably be 50 before you send him through level 2, now that Timmy is using his inhaler at sports he is realizing what it’s really like to breath, you shoulda noticed his problem soon and done something sooner, oh and do you remember when you had him walk on his broken leg, seriously!  You left a kid at school, forgot to sign Josh and Kate’s papers, Timmy does need that haircut, oh, and Bo had his shirt backwards and inside out yesterday, and today he is wearing the same shirt, only now it is turned right side out and on the right way.   Ahhh, Yes, PMS! Perfect Mother Syndrome.   It is our ability to criticize everything we do and never feel we are enough.  I am not sayin, aim to be a horrible mom, then you won’t let yourself down, not at all!!  I’m just sayin’ give yourself a break and be realistic.  But this PMS, keeps us aiming for perfection, which keeps us chasing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, so we never have a chance to give ourselves a break, it seems as if we don’t have time for it.   And in all honesty, when we accept our humanity, give ourselves permission to take care of us we are actually capable of more, and we are less stressed.  This actually give us the ability to be more Present in the moment with our kids, which is a better feeling than hoping for that pot of gold.

Here are some quick ideas to get you going…

  • Let them KNOW!- Let your kids know and feel your love for them. As long as they know that, they will forgive you when you forget to pick them up from  school
  • Be Real!- Face it you’re NOT Wonder Woman. None of us are. Be realistic with what you choose to take on.  You can’t do it ALL, ALL of the time! Your kids will understand…well, not till they have kids…but someday I assure you, they will understand!
  • Give yourself a BREAK!-We have our “Wonder Woman” moments, enjoy them!  But we also have human moments, ALL OF US, accept them and laugh at them, and move on!  Stop running a list of “shouldas” at the end of the day.  This I challenge you with, start making a list of “I rocked it” at the end of the day.  Because hey, if you have kids and you fed them…anything… well, every little bit counts.  And ya know what else I am going to count.  Today Bo turned that shirt on right side out and wore it again.  But it was a different side, so I vote…CLEANISH.  And cleanish is good enough for this week.
  • Listen to this fun song.

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Jamie Lightner

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